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Mental Health Check In: How Are You Really?

Mental Health Check In: How Are You Really?

How are you?

It’s a question we ask, and are asked, often on a daily basis. For many, we give the stock answer of “I’m good, how are you?”. But I’d like you to take a quiet minute or two right now and really ask yourself that question.

How are you feeling emotionally, mentally, physically?

We’ve all been through a lot. The last two years have taken its toll on everybody in one form or another. I think now, as we approach the two year anniversary of the start of the pandemic, is a good time to check in with yourself.

I am sometimes asked what trends I see with my clients, how are they handling the pandemic, or whatever else is going on in the world at that time. Right now, my answer is simple. People are tired.

I think they’re tired in a way that may not even be obvious, that’s why I encourage everybody to really take stock of themselves. Many people are feeling drained, spent, burnt out, fatigued.

All things covid related have been playing on a loop in our minds and our lives for two years.

Sometimes that loop has been the forefront, and other times it’s more in the background, but it’s always there. Our brains have had to process all of this new and always changing information.

This has been in addition to our regular daily life stressors and responsibilities, most of which did not stop during the pandemic, and for many these were only increased because of it. There have been many types of stressors related to the pandemic and just as many varied opinions and responses.

Relationships among friends and families have been strained and tested at times because of differing viewpoints. All of this together can easily be exhausting, especially over a prolonged period of time like two years.

Take some time to acknowledge how you have been personally affected and how you feel right now.

If you find you are not feeling as well as you’d like… Take another moment to think about what you need to feel better. Do you need more self-care, relaxation and restoration, more time with friends or family, less time with friends or family? Do your best to make it a priority to tend to what your mental health needs are right now.

We have been through so many changes and “new normals” and more are coming.

Many companies are returning to the office in the coming weeks. Mask mandates in schools are being lifted. This is a time of significant transition. The most important suggestion I have for everybody is to be kind.

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others.

Nobody is unaffected by the last two years. Some people are ready to throw their masks away for good and some want to keep wearing them. Both are ok.

Let’s support ourselves and each other through these changes.

After you check in with yourself, do the same with friends, family and co-workers. Whatever is or isn’t coming next, let’s come out of this collective experience stronger and more compassionate with ourselves and each other. If your check in finds you or a loved one could use some extra support, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me.

Therapy and coaching can help us process, heal and move forward.

Be well.

Kathy Most
Therapist in Westfield, NJ
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